LOVE. LIFE. TIP. #4
Davina
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real. LIFE.
I was going to give a tip today that I really believe in and I know is important to loving life. Instead, I'm going to write about what is happening right now. Today. This week.
I'm in over my head. To tell the truth I have too much on my plate. I've overextended myself and I'm doing all of the things I've tried to eliminate over the past year. I'm going to bed again at 3am and I haven't journaled in a couple of days. I'm trying to manage too many things and not living my life. I'm on urgent overdrive.
It's not too late, though, to change all of it. Yes, responsiblities are bearing down but it's no reason to lose perspective now...it just means I need to take a step back, re-evaluate, and see what needs to be reworked.
This is how I'm getting my life back today:
#1: Realize that you don't have to do it all. I love and adore Thirst Relief. I have since the moment I heard about it and got the opportunity to talk to Jim Davis-Hicks about it and came up with the idea to start a mentoring benefit to raise money for clean water around the world. This year the Benefit has gotten enormous...which is totally what we've been hoping for. We couldn't be happier. Sometimes when you start something that is a great idea you think you're the only one that can do it the way it needs to be done. This is so not true. There are always facets of a project that don't HAVE to be done by you. This is the case within your own business. Jim and I emailed back and forth and I did the unthinkable-I told him I needed help. Within minutes, he had responded that there were two people that would probably be willing to help me. Just that email alone took a huge weight off of the things that need to be done this week.
#2: Ask for help. WIth Love Affair I have been the one that has been blogging women over the last 6 months. I've had fun doing it, however, since I want to spend good time with my family before I get to the Love Affair workshop something had to give. I talked to Lauren about the stress I was feeling and she said, "Well, is there anything I can do?" Instead of just brushing off her question with a, "Oh, no, I've got it under control." I really thought about it and said, "Actually, if you could take over blogging the rest of the girls that would be a huge help to me."
#3: Remember you are human. No one expects you to be the superhero. You're probably the only one that thinks you need the super powers of 10 superheros. I'm here to tell you it's just not going to happen.
#4: Don't let the time to journal be the thing that gets pushed to the back burner. When your life gets hectic is NOT the time to lose perspective. That's exactly what will happen if you decided to start working the minute your head pops off your pillow in the morning.
#5: Things get hectic, however, you can keep your life in the midst of them. Make sure to have some down time everyday to just breathe and be grateful that you are alive. Don't go to bed a frenzied mess or you'll wake up the same way.
NOTE: This is a snapshot into (I've heard from a number people) exactly what many are living with all of the time. This is one week of my life right now. But there are things that I'm doing this week that you can apply to your life that will ease the burdens that you have. Make sure to take a step back and enjoy your life even if things seem a bit chaotic in the moment. You'll be glad you did!
enjoy. LIFE.
Reader Comments (11)
Thanks for this post!! It puts life into perspective for all of us!
I am sure you have so much on your plate~ Please let me know if there is anything that I can do to help!! Really!! I would be happy to help you if I can~
I am sooo looking forward to thw workshop!!
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Sending smiles and warm thoughts to you in the north-land!
Thank you Thank YOU Thank You for this post. I know you didnt do it for me particularly (especially since you have no idea who I am haha) but I feel God used you today to witness to me (to many I am sure). I too am going to step back and re-evaluate, God Bless and good luck with all you are doing! It all sounds wonderful!
Thanks for this post! With my business just taking off, a husband who is injured and at home waiting to have surgery, taking care a 1 yr old and being pregnant I can definitely identify! I have been feeling totally overwhelmed & have just had to accept that my house may not be perfectly clean or organized but my family is happy and healthy & I've done what I can for my business to at least keep things going for now!
great perspective Davina! Thanks for sharing. Very similar to the tips I just read in the book The Dip. Have you read it? Quick read, very inspiring...teaches you to know when to quit and when to stick! Gives a good perspective on balancing the many tasks we take on in our lives.
Hi my friend, I am sorry to hear that you are so stressed. I want to help...I am giving you 4 or 5 hours of my time this Friday so make me a list. I will do whatever I can to help! I will call you tomorrow!!
Wow Davina! Look what happens when you call for help! People love you! You are such a great friend and such a real person and that is what make you truly unique. You are not putting up a front or telling someone that life is ALWAYS perfect... you are being you and being real. Keep it up!
davina - i usually blog stalk you but latley i havent had time, got a min today and after reading this post i feel so guilty about thursday. what could you have gotten done instead? serious! oh woman, you inspire me and make me smile! what can i do? take me seriously!
Davina,
You continue to amaze me by being authentic to yourself, striving for balance, and living your values. Keep up the good self care and role modeling it to all of us!
Ali in Indy
Ohmigosh! I am such a lucky woman! I am so grateful to all of you who have left me such kind comments.
Tiffany, I can't even tell you how excited I am, too. It's going to be wonderful!
Karen, thanks for the sweetness.
Toni, thank you so much for telling me that I helped you. When I hit publish for this post, that was what I was hoping for!
I did read The Dip months and months ago. I guess I retrieved it somewhere in my brain without realizing it! :)
Becky, I am so blessed to know you! Thank you so much for coming over to the studio and helping me out. My life feels so much more organized after you were there!
Millie, you are a dear, sweet friend. Thank you so much for saying such wonderful things to me. I can't wait to see you this week. I can't believe everything we've been planning for this past 6 months is actually here already!
Audrey, seeing you was a gift. Believe me. I was so happy to get to come and hang out with you and Saylor. YOU are the one that inspires me. Truly.
Ali, you have a wonderful way with words and boosting the people around you. Thank you for making me smile.
i SOOOOOO needed to hear that! Thank you.