love affair family.

This is such a sweet family.  I talked to Nina before our session and asked her what they all liked to do together.  Hanging out together, snuggling on a couch, laughing were all favorites. 

The thing that's amazing about them is this...Nina and Marq have only been married for two years.  You wouldn't know it from the way these kids absolutely adore Marq.  The safety and love that they've created in their home is so apparent when you spend time with them.

Thank you all for being so lovely and so much fun to photograph!

beautiful. LIFE.

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IN 2 WEEKS:  Carrie Cook

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Brianna,  You are an amazing woman in the way you see and write about the world.  I love your regular posts that include a break down of the week and the funny, inspiring, and real insight you have into family and business life.  You are adept at pulling the meaningful out of the mundane and appreciating the beautiful in what others would pass without noticing.  Your work pushes your own limits and the ease with which you and Ewan conduct life and business is fantastic.  Thanks so much for being on Women and Business today.



How long have you been a professional photographer?
How did you and Ewan come together and create your photography business?

These two answers so go hand in hand. In 2002 I met Ewan. We were in the same philosophy class at The University of Western Ontario and were both pursuing teaching as a career. Ewan always told me that if he won the lottery he would be a photographer instead of teacher. I honestly think he was going to work in education just so he could have summers off!  He kept talking about how he would pursue photography full time if he won the lottery so I encouraged him to just do it. Just live his dream. In August 2004 we were married and in December 2004 we shot our first wedding together. In 2005 we shot 25 weddings. The following year we were both shooting full time together and photographed 50 weddings.

I took some time off from shooting while having our daughters (Rachel and Sarah Elizabeth) and only worked in the office. I came back again alongside Ewan this year and love every minute of it. It’s amazing how easily we work together.


Are you in a retail space or home studio? What made you decide to have retail space?

When we first started the business we were living in a 2 bedroom apartment and met clients at their homes. With the move to full time we bought our first home and gutted the 2nd floor, running the business from there. In 2010 we made the investment in a studio outside of our home.  While we loved working from home (the convenience, no commute) we knew it was time to take the business outside. Our girls were getting bigger (and louder) and required more room. Our boudoir business was continuing to grow and we wanted a permanent place to shoot these sessions instead of booking hotel rooms and using client spaces. And we needed a permanent space for mentor sessions and teaching.

What does your workflow look like? Do you outsource or keep everything in house?

We have an awesome team who make our business possible. Ewan and I work full time in the office (and shoot). Rebecca is our office assistant and works full time at the studio with us. Ewan and Rebecca’s duties include loading and backing up photos, culling images, editing images, sorting, choosing photos for blog posts. I answer emails, phone messages, do all client meetings, organize time lines and wedding day details, design albums, fill print orders, write blog posts and take care of all administrative tasks. Yaira is our associate photographer and assists in the office part time. Sara is a part time office assistant and helps with culling images and general administration. We have two assistants who rotate at weddings with us. And bring on one co-op student each year.

All of our post production work is done in-house. It’s taken us a few years to perfect the perfect work flow, but we’ve finally found it!

What do you do to help your clients be so comfortable with you during a photo shoot?

We have a lot of interaction with our clients from day one. The average bride emails me 50+ times, so we get to know our couples really well before the wedding day. And we do an engagement session with all of our couples before hand too. This helps us to get to know their personalities, see their style, how they interact together and if they’re shy/nervous in front of the camera. It’s kind of like a trial run for the wedding day.

When I first meet a bride and groom we look through full engagement sessions and weddings together. We chat about our style and what to expect during a shoot. Because our style is unique we also set expectations about sitting on the ground during a shoot, being adventurous and trusting our vision. Our main goal is for the couple to have fun!

What do you recommend women do who are just getting started in the industry?

Meet other people in your area. Network. Meet vendors. Ask questions. And get involved. When Ewan and I started out we were young (only 21 and 22). We didn’t know about any online photography forums, workshops, mentor sessions or networking events and everyone in our local industry was 25+ years older than us. I’d suggest going to local photography events and getting to know other people in your area. Don’t be afraid to meet people, ask questions and get involved.

Set goals for yourself. Where you want to be six months from now, 12 months and 5 years. If you have a clear vision of where you want to go, you can set out a plan on how to get there.

Also, be realistic. You need more than a passion to be successful in this industry. Learn about running a business and the administrative side of things. Knowing how to make a business ‘run’ will allow you more time to do what you love : take photos!

You are a mom, what do you do to keep from being a stressed out mom and have fun with your kids?

Sunday is family day. No ifs. No buts. Every Sunday is designated as a no-work day. We sleep in. When the girls wake up they crawl into bed with us and we watch cartoons. Read books. Eat breakfast in bed. Then we go out and do something fun together. Sometimes we go on a picnic. Or to the park. Storybook Garden (it’s like a kid’s fun park). The beach. The Children’s Museum. Anywhere fun where they can just be kids. I’m also a master of lists and have at least 2 or 3 on the go at all times. This really helps me balance everything that needs to get done and prioritize things. So when we go home at the end of the work day I can leave everything behind and pick up on the list again the next day. I refuse to work in the evenings – that time is just for Ewan and the kids. It did take me a long time to learn how to ‘turn off’ work, but it really helps me enjoy family time and keep a balance between work and home.

What do you do for fun…that has nothing to do with photography?

I love reading! I loved reading growing up as a kid and even went to school for English, Language and Literature. One semester I took 6 English courses all at one and actually thought it was fun to have to read so many books (yes, I’m a dork). But reading for pleasure helps me escape busy days and escape into a different world. I also love cooking. During our off season (after the kids have gone to bed) we love to open a bottle of wine, make a fresh meal and listen to some good music. I’m always on the hunt for new recipes.


What do you do to keep your marriage fun?

Honestly, we get asked how we work together 24/7 at least once a week. But we really are best friends and have learned how to separate work and home life. At work we’re business partners. At home we’re husband and wife and mom and dad.  We have a weekly date night for just the two of us. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, but it’s a set night each week where we do something special. We’ve been doing this since our oldest daughter was born and it’s always Thursday night. Sometimes we rent a movie. Sometimes we go to Chapter’s. Or Starbucks. Or for a walk. Just sit on the back deck and talk. Play a board game. Go out for dinner. Anything. As long as it doesn’t involve a cell phone, internet, computer or the words wedding or photography.


What is the best thing you’ve done to make your business successful?

We always make our relationship with our couples beyond just showing up on their wedding day to take photos.  We want them to feel like they can come to us for anything – vendor suggestions, etiquette questions, sharing their dress choice with us and helping with their planning (I love when our brides send us photos of their shoes!) This is their first time planning a wedding, but we do this 365 days a year, so we really encourage them to involve us in their planning. We want our couples to have a great experience with us from start to finish and feel as stress free as possible with all of their planning.

You are a mom , how old are your children? What do you do to help them feel part of your business life?
We have two girls – Rachel is 3.5 and Sarah Elizabeth is 22 months. We try really hard to separate business and home life, but want our girls to know what we do for a living too. We’ve had picnics at the studio before so that they can see where we go every day. Recently they watched Ewan from far away while he photographed an engagement session (and loved it!) We also run into past/current clients all the time in public because we’re from a smaller city. So the girls are always meeting people and we make sure to explain how we know them/the connection.

You and your husband run your business together. How do you divide the work?

You might laugh at this, but we have a board. We have designated roles in the business and have a giant white board in our office. The work flow is divided by each step and there are deadlines listed for each step. Ewan knows he has to have job X done before X date. And then I know the next step needs to be done by date Y. This works really smoothly and makes sure nothing gets missed or overlooked.

How do you keep from making each other crazy?

We laugh a lot! We have a lot of fun together and are both realistic people. We know that some days are going to be long and hard work. Some days are going to be easy and a lot of fun. We talk to each other all day long at work and are still talking at 11pm at night. Typing that now I realize that maybe we are too talkative of people 

How do you keep business from invading your personal lives together?

Honestly, it’s sometimes hard in the busy season. I’m not going to pretend it doesn’t because sometimes you just can’t help but ‘take work home with you’ when work is crazy.  And I think that’s okay. Sometimes you need to vent about your bad day, even if you spent it together. We do have date nights and refuse to work during ‘kid time’, but it does happen where there are nights we start working again after the kids go to bed. I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in saying that.

What do you do to keep your family strong?
We have a lot of fun with our kids. We have random dance parties in the hallway. One day painting pictures turned into full body painting. We bake. We go for walks. Watch silly cartoons. Play dress up. Let the girls give me silly hairdos. Make faces at the cats. Make huge splashes in the bathtub. Build forts. And make shaving cream beards. We really try to let our kids be kids and have fun together as a family. I hope when they’re all grown up that they look back on their childhood and smile 

Do you travel very often? How do you make this easier on your children? How do they feel about how often you travel?
We just started taking destination/distance weddings again this year because we were busy popping out babies! We only accepted 5 of these away events for 2011 to test out being away from the kids. I’m not sure if we’ll take more in years to come or cap at 5. For now it’s a good number.

What do you do to keep from feeling overwhelmed?

Lists and the board in our office.  I also keep a notebook beside our bed because I have always been a light sleeper and get most of my ideas at night time. This way I can just jot things down and get them out of my head. I usually remember what my random scribbles mean in the morning, but not always 

What three products or things help you stay organized?

To-do lists. Notebook. Big board of deadlines. And a giant calendar that’s colour coded (again, realizing that I’m a dork!)


What is something that you think women in the industry should not do?

Don’t be a superhero. You’ll just end up burnt out in the end. If you need help, ask for it. If you’re too busy to take a booking, say no. If you can’t promise a due date on an item, don’t promise it or you’ll just disappoint. There are only so many hours in the day and we need to remember to allot some of that time for things other than work. Don’t forget to give yourself some time too!


What is something that you think women in the industry should do?

Meet other women. We’re all in the same boat. Lots of us are moms or wives and trying to juggle different roles. It’s good to know that other people out there are wearing the same hats as you. I have a colleague (and friend) who is a mother of 5 and her kids are all older than ours. I love knowing that she’s likely been through every single strange mom moment that I have and I can ask her anything.

I love the way you see the beautiful, sweet, painful, humor, good, bad, etc. in your life. What do you do to help you see those moments and appreciate them?

In our wedding vows Ewan and I talked about loving each other through the sour and the sweet. I think about those words all the time and try to remember them in our day to day life. We need to experience the sour sometimes so that we’ll appreciate the sweet.

We often get asked what our business name means and the answer is that it comes from Ewan and I : you only show so much of yourself to the outside world and you save the special details for the person you love (the things that no one else would ever even see or notice). But those are the things that make you who you really are. So, you only show 60% of yourself to the outside world, but it’s the last 40% that counts.

We try really hard to enjoy those little details and quirks. That’s what makes us us! Every night Ewan and I ask each other what our favourite parts of our day were. I love to remember/notice little things that no one else would ever think twice about, but that really make our family who we are. Like how Rachel only has freckles on one of her cheeks, not both. The way Sarah Elizabeth sleeps with two identical teddy bears, but seems to know the difference between them. How Ewan sets our alarm a few minutes before we actually need to get up so that we can cuddle in the morning. Driving with the windows down. Picking flowers in the park. These are things that I try to freeze in time and hold on to. They make us the Phelan family.

What five suggestions do you have for women who are trying to have a more whole, content and blissful life?

Eat well. Sleep well. Take care of yourself. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anything else or anyone.

Dream big. Live fully.

Give back when you can. Remember all of the people who helped you out when you were just starting and do the same when you get to a place where you can.

Laugh. A lot. Even if it’s at yourself.

Take notes. So that when you’re 80 you can look back and remember what you were feeling throughout each stage of your life.



A little dorky chunk of info about us from our blog :

He only wears black belts. Not brown. He was a Chef in another life. He loves Star Wars. Sci-fi novels. And sports movies (Rudy, Rudy, Rudy). He won’t drink milk unless it’s in a bowl of cereal. Or mushrooms unless they’re on a pizza. Gives the best bear hugs. Uses his hands instead of a measuring tape. Hates taking out the garbage. Loves cleaning bathrooms. Thinks watching our girls play together is the sweetest thing on the planet. Has an infectious laugh. And tells the best knock knock jokes. Meet Ewan.

She likes the colour blue. But always prefers to wear black. Has a slight obsession with shoes. Loves to wear jeans and a pearl necklace. Still sleeps with a teddy bear. Gets a refill at restaurants and never drinks it. Only ever paints her toe nails silver or red. Is fiercely proud to be Canadian. Hates the word bologna. Loves the word onomatopoeia (Sizzle, whoosh, swish). Story time with the babes. Super long showers. And thinks mail time is the best part of the day. Meet Brianna.

So, that’s us. A random mix of Lucky Charms and Fruit Loops all in the same bowl. We love our family. We love each other. And we love what we do for a living!

To see more of Brianna (and Ewan's) work:

Our studio

www.lastfortypercentblog.com (our main site)

www.lastfortypercentboudoir.com (our boudoir site)

a grateful heart is a happy heart.

A few years ago I found myself sizing up the needs and wants in my life and found myself falling short on the "I'm glad I have-s".  I decided it was time to start keeping a Love Book.

My love book is a list of things I love.  I try to write in it everyday and list at least 5 things I love about the day.  I was glancing back in it today and decided to post an excerpt here:

June 7, 2009

*I love.  All of the tiger lilies and wildflowers that seem to grow randomly all down the sides of the interstate here in South Carolina.

 *I love.  Gracie's hugs in the morning when she's so happy to see that I'm awake.

 *I love. How clean the house was when we left this morning.

 *I love.  Miriam's sweet little features on her face and her tender self.  She seems so vulnerable when she's home and so brave when she's out in public.

 *I love.  The Fuji Apple Chicken Salad at Panera.  It has the perfect blend of favors and crisp apple chips.  Yum!

 *I love.  My life.

Sometimes I write more than five. :)

happy. LIFE.

meet kaya.

Back in the spring we had a perfect American Girl Book Club party.  The weather was blue skies and puffy clouds and just right temperatures.

When we arrived and saw the life-sized Teepee the girls were so excited.  I knew before the big day that is was going to be a great party.  I had no idea that we would be next to a pond on acres and acres of land.  The location itself was so much like the place Kaya's family had set up the temporary village. 

We sat around talking about what it would be like to be Kaya, to have responsibilities for the younger children, weave and make beautiful beaded things, cook dinner, go to the bathroom outside, and cook dinner for your family over a fire, eat mostly roots, berries, and the deer the men would kill. 

We also talked about how important it is that you create the story of your own life.  You get to choose how it plays out.

Everyone crowded around the table to eat fruits, beef jerky, salmon jerky, and nuts.

The girls even got to create their own bead bracelet by learning the ancient art of beading.

My favorite part was when the activities were over and the girls ran around the land, waded into the pond looking for tadpoles, finding blue robin's eggs, swinging in a hammock, giggling, discovering, exploring, and completely unaware that the world was moving at the speed of light everywhere else on the planet.

We stepped back in time and walked and played with Kaya for those couple of hours on a Saturday in May.

storybook. LIFE.

**All images in this post are copyright Nancy Ray and Caroline Joy.***

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Nancy and Caroline,  You both attended the same Love Affair Workshop and are now very good business friends.  You're applying things that you learned at Love Affair and I LOVE seeing the things we talked about there really taking shape in your lives and business (and you know I love it when I hear that people have jumped on my journalling bandwagon!).  You've both got so much working out for you, together and individually...thanks so much for being on Women and Business today.

NANCY:

Are you in a retail space or home studio?  What made you choose your space?
Definitely a home studio.  I love it.  Not only are the economical benefits wonderful, I just think it's the best thing in the world to walk downstairs with my mug of coffee to go to work!  I shoot everything on location, so it's not a "studio" in the traditional sense - I never take photos in my studio.  But I have taken much time to design it as a productive workspace, as well as an attractive meeting area for my clients.    When we bought our townhome, we were looking for a specific 3-story layout.  The bottom floor is my studio, and the 2nd and 3rd stories is where my husband and I live.  It's perfect, really. 

What do you do to help your clients be so comfortable with you during a photo shoot?
In the beginning of a shoot, I always acknowledge the fact that it feels awkward having your photos taken.  Let's be honest!  It usually makes them laugh, and it keeps it real.  When they begin loosening up and showing more affection, I am sure to shower them with lots of praise so they continue to just be themselves. 

What do you do for fun...that has nothing to do with photography?
My favorite thing in the world is pizza night with my husband, Will.  We usually cuddle on the couch, eat pizza, and watch episodes of The Office.  When I'm not hanging out with him, I frequent the antique store down the street and see what little treasures I can find.  I have grand plans of buying pumpkins there this week!

What are you most proud of as a business woman?
I am most proud of the fact that I have never used debt in my business.  I have bought every thing with cash, and I built my business steadily with lots of hard work.  It is vitally important to learn how to prioritize big purchases and financial business decisions, and using cash allows you to truly do that.  I have learned that the latest gadget or the coolest lenses do NOT make you a good photographer or businesswoman!  Having good priorities does.

What are the top three things you did when you were first getting started in business to bring in clients?
1.  I asked for referrals, unashamedly. People love to spread your name if they like your work & you treat them well! 

2.  I updated my blog regularly, which started a great online "buzz."

3. I treated the clients I had the best way I possibly could.  Fast turn-around, quality work, and prompt emails.  People really appreciate and respect the little things like that. [I also highly recommend "Guerilla Marketing" by Jay Conrad Levinson for those of you just getting started.]

What do you do to keep from feeling overwhelmed?
Stick with a schedule, get enough sleep, and work hard when you are at work.  It takes major self-discipline when working at home to not get distracted with every day life, (oh no, the laundry is overflowing!  we are out of groceries!  the dishes need to be done!) but if you can simply stick to the task at hand and treat it like a "real job," you will feel less overwhelmed.  Also, I give myself deadlines for each session & wedding I photograph, which allows me to stay on task and not pile up too much work for me to handle. 

What five suggestions do you have for women who are trying to have a more whole, content, and blissful life?
First and foremost, my faith in Jesus is the center of my contentment.  Finding fulfillment in Him first is vital to having a whole, content, and blissful life!  That is definitely my # 1 suggestion - get to know Him.  He never, ever lets me down.

# 2 -  Make time for yourself.  Have a bubble bath, take a walk, cook a meal.  Whatever makes you happy!  Make time for it, even if you have to write it down in your crazy schedule.  (No shame in that - I do it all the time!)

# 3 - Have a morning routine... you have no idea how much I look forward to my mornings every day! It sets the tone for your entire day.  Here is a brief synopsis of my mornings: Wake up, make my bed, get dressed, drink coffee/prayer time/journal time, light a candle and go to work. I feel so accomplished simply by making my bed and getting fully dressed.

# 4 - Be comfortable in your own skin.  Be confident in who you are, your style, your photography.  Don't continually compare yourself or try to please others. (I wrote a post about this in a recent Branches and Light Workshop blogpost: http://www.branchesandlight.com)

# 5 - Set goals.  I am a big believer in writing down goals for yourself, and meeting those goals.  There is something powerful about crossing off a personal goal you have set for yourself!  I set monthly goals and strive to meet every single one.  It keeps me on track, doing the things I love.

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CAROLINE:

Are you in a retail space or home studio?  What made you choose your space?
I chose to go the home studio route and I’ve never looked back! The most obvious pro is that it’s budget friendly! I feel that my business is an extension of my personal life, so I like having my workspace close in my home. It’s a place I love to be in.

What do you do to help your clients be so comfortable with you during a photo shoot?
I always begin shoots letting my clients know what to expect. This goes such a long way! It takes the pressure off when they hear that I’ll always let them know what I want from them in front of the camera. Eye contact and smiles go a long way too--I never stop smiling on a shoot. I also never stop talking while I’m behind the camera. I’m constantly talking to my clients, giving feedback, giving encouragement, or telling them what I’m doing with my camera (for example, “Lovely! Keep holding that pose while I get my exposure right.”).

What do you do for fun...that has nothing to do with photography?
I just recently purchased my first home, so decorating is my favorite thing to do now! I love getting inspiration from design blogs and then searching for unique things in antique/secondhand stores. I never realized just how much fun it would be to express myself creatively through my house, but it’s been a blast! I also got a German Shepherd puppy about 5 months ago, so it’s refreshing to get out and play with her. She’s a ball of fun! Last but not least, dinner parties are my new favorite thing! My friends and I have put together some seriously swanky outdoor dinner parties, and we love the excuse it gives us to create a lovely atmosphere, cook some delish food, and hang out!

What are you most proud of as a business woman?
To be completely honest, I’ve always been a person influenced more by fear than anything else. When I began my photography business, the love of creating art distracted me from that fear and I hardly noticed again until I was out in the middle of the photography pool. As soon as I realized just how far out of my comfort zone I’d gotten, it was too late and I was full force in my business. No turning back. With all my heart I wanted to continue in photography, but that voice of fear taunted me. With the grace of God, I’ve been able to face my fears, weaknesses, and insecurities head on. While I still battle with them, I’ve experienced tremendous personal and spiritual growth through my business. Through this business and the guiding hand of the Lord, I’ve learned to live above my fears.

What are the top three things you did when you were first getting started in business to bring in clients?
1.     Networking! My first year in business, I was blessed with a small but amazing network of photographer friends in my area. We all had similar goals and were in photography for the same reasons (the people, the beauty of life). If one of us had an inquiry for a date we already had booked, we’d pass the inquiry on to the others in the group. Instead of feeling competitive with each other, we helped and encouraged each other, and because of that, we each grew our businesses into what they are now.

2.     Treating my clients like they are kings and queens and NEVER missing a deadline. My goodness, that alone can make or break your business. People notice consistency (or lack thereof!).

3.     Setting out mini Moo cards at weddings for guests to grab. I included the couples photos on the front, the couple’s names and wedding date on the back, and directions where to find the wedding photos online. Short, Sweet, Small, and Successful!

What do you do to keep from feeling overwhelmed?
I make choices that are right for my business, without comparing my choices to another person’s business. For example, I have friends who take 50+ weddings a year, but I know that wouldn’t work for me. I only accept 15-20 weddings a year. Another example, my first year, I constantly felt overwhelmed with my editing load, and frustrated because I didn’t have much time to invest in client relationships. I decided, once for all, that outsourcing my editing was the right choice for me. This decision transformed my business. I was able to spend time on the aspects of my business that I loved, which relieved so much stress. Don’t be afraid to do what’s right for you and your style of business!

What five suggestions do you have for women who are trying to have a more whole, content, and blissful life?
1.     Remember your original vision for your life. When you used to dream about life {with your new husband} {at your new job} {when you bought a house}, what did those dreams include. Take a moment to write those dreams down, and then make a plan to get back to that original vision. It is totally possible to live the life you dreamed!
2.     Journal. It’s so therapeutic to write out your thoughts. You can also use it to list out 5 things you’re thankful for each day, or other contentment-breeding exercises.
3.     Do one good thing. I suddenly looked up from my work the other day and realized I hadn’t made time for my family or friends much at all lately. I was instantly discouraged, but rather than wallowing in it, I got up, called a friend, and made plans with her. Simply by doing that one good thing, I was inspired the next day to spend time with my mom. And so on, and so on. One good thing breeds another.
4.     Don’t compare. There’s nothing that saps me faster than when I get caught up in a comparison rut. Remember, when you’re comparing, you’re usually comparing the worst of yourself to the best of someone else and not seeing the whole picture. Blogs are a great source of inspiration, but go ahead and cut out the blogs that you tend to compare yourself to. Just stick with the ones that truly inspire and refresh you.
5.     Pray. Hands down the thing that keeps me balanced in life is prayer. It brings such an instant and beautiful peace.

To see more of Caroline's work:

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blog : www.carolinejoyblog.com
web : www.carolinejoyphotography.com